How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone With A Girl
There’s something very devious happening in society today…
And it’s being promoted by some very powerful people…
If I didn’t know any better, I’d say that this was all part of a conspiracy to trick otherwise normal, good guys, like you, into complete and utter frustration with women…
Want to know the worst part about it?
Like something out of Orwell’s 1984, this syndrome has a name that hides the fact that this experiences is one of the most heart-breaking, frustrating, gut-wrenching experiences that haunts many guys today…
Yes, I am indeed talking about the… FRIEND ZONE (queue flash of thunder and scary music).
How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone With A Girl
But in all seriousness, this is a majorly frustrating issue for thousands of guys out there.
Just a quick check reveals that there are tens of thousand of searches for how to get out of the friend zone with a girl every single month on Google. Seriously.
Like many of the destructive ideas about online dating and relating with women out there, the concept of the “friend zone” is usually encouraged by vaguely idealistic notions that capitalize on guys best nature while simultaneously preventing him from having all but a tiny chance at a happy dating life (until he gets wise and finds better, more effective ways to live).
Before I tell you how I recommend getting out of the friend zone with a girl, I want to tell you a little story.
It was recently brought to my attention by fellow dating advice blogger Alex Wise that there is a new show on MTV called “The Friend Zone.”
Here’s what he said about it:
Friendzone is a reality show series which features “Friends,” who break the shocking news to the other friend,that they wanna take their friendship to the next level(dating,sex,relationship,etc.).
First of all, I haven’t watched the show. Nor do I intend to (unless I get a client who has been on the show and wants advice on what he did wrong). I hadn’t heard of the show until I saw it on SocialKenny’s blog. I haven’t even looked up any information about the Friend Zone on the internet.
Why is this relevant?
Because I already know what the show is all about. I’ve seen it happen to too many friends and too many clients.
Here is my big issue with the “Friend Zone” show. The people making money on the show are banking on the fact that this is a painful, humiliating experience for most guys.
Then, in order to be “fair” and “uplifting” they will naturally have to show time when the girl actually reciprocates the guys feelings. You know, kinda like how casino’s “fairly” showoff how easy it is to win the Jackpot while 99.999% of the people lose their money.
This show is promoting behavior that is hurting guys chances to find a really great girl who actually likes them.
“But I know people who were friends before they started dating!”
Good. So do I. And I’ll address that issue in a moment because it actually fits in with my recommendation for how to get out of the friend zone.
How Can You Get Out Of The Trap Set By MTV’s “Friend Zone”?
It’s really simple actually.
And if you follow this advice, you will steer clear of the friend zone. It won’t even come up as an issue.
Be straightforward with her and invite her on a DATE.
Go ahead. Say it out loud. Get comfortable with the word.
Use it explicitly in invitations to women you’re interested in.
How Does The Word “Date” Help You Get Out Of The Friend Zone?
Dates are not for friends.
Dates are for two people – a guy and a gal – to meet and find out if they are right for each other.
All girls know what a date is. And if she likes you, she will be thrilled to go on a date with you. And if the word date scares her off, then you know you just Identified a girl who’s not interested in you in the way you want.
Of course, the best situation is to avoid this entire mess in the first place (which you can do by following this advice on the next girl). Next time around, from the very beginning, make it clear that you want to invite her on a date.
Not this: “Hey, what’s your phone number? We can totally hang out!”
This: “What’s your phone number? I want to ask you out on a date.”
The way we teach our guys to meet women pretty much eliminates any semblance of being “just friends.” It makes everything a whole lot more fun when you don’t need to deal with the problem because the problem doesn’t exist.
Now, it might just so happen that she turns down your date offer.
THIS IS GOOD.
Because if she had the same feelings for you as you did her, she would accept the date. Now you can save yourself the pain and humiliation of being “friend-zoned” by instead going out and finding a girl with whom you really click.
Bottom-Line On How To Get Out Of The Friend Zone With A Girl
The bottom-line is this: Unless you make some kind of a move, you will stay stuck in the friend zone. Use the word DATE explicitly – that’s your move. Stop passively hoping that she likes you or will somehow make a move to start being more romantic with you. Only girls are allowed to do that. Start being a man and be straight-up with her.
Invite her on a date and get out of the friend zone.
There are a lot more intricacies to this issue than I’ve had time to cover (damn you MTV’s Friend Zone!) so if you have any questions, leave a comment and I’ll respond